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- 04 Sep
Why I hid being a model & how it diminished my sense of self
The above shot was taken on one of my 1st shoots c. 1997. I was young, blond and knew I had just stepped into the start of something- at the time, I had no clue where it would lead.
Why did I hide being a model for so many years? It wasn’t that I exactly lied about it or felt any shame around it, but wearing the hat as a fitness professional for many years, I was afraid to claim it. I just left it out of most all conversations unless I was with someone in the industry or a scheduling conflict had arisen because of it.
The reason I am sharing this with you is that there was always an incongruence that I felt deep inside. (You maybe can resonate with this feeling too?) Kind of like a thorn that every so often gets snagged- then ‘ouch’ there it was. The underlying issue for me was never truly feeling sure of myself, confident in who I was or comfortable in my own skin. There it was again- that nasty little self-esteem deficiency. If there was a pill for that, I probably would’ve taken it!
I was recently interviewed by Tena Pettis on the Clique podcast, where we talked all about exactly that! I revealed a little bit more of myself, and why for so long, I was hiding out. I hid being a model. I hid my desires for beauty and style. I hid the fullest expression of myself.
When I say ‘hid’ I mean I wasn’t forthcoming or open about these things. It was like they didn’t exist for me… because when you devalue yourself, you kinda don’t.
I was so hung up that people would doubt my professionalism or intelligence as a trainer if they knew I wasn’t ONLY a trainer. As if I were cheating on my fitness career. Seriously, self-doubt and a lack of self-worth can play funny mind games on you- and this was one of them!
I’m sure you’ll get a lot out of this interview, so don’t forget to let me know what your biggest takeaways & aha’s were. Tena is an expert interviewer in disguise, chatting it up like an old girlfriend, and her approach really made me comfortable sharing a vulnerable side of myself. See below for Tena’s top ten reasons to listen. ClICK HERE for my latest interview.
Bottom line: I was afraid to claim it. To stand up and own who I really was. Did I not feel worthy? Beautiful enough? Credible? Talented? Likely all of them at some point in time. To hide a very important part of my life was diminishing my inner strength and power, and squashing my sense of self, as if dimming my light and radiance more and more each passing day.
Today I am more than grateful to combine my two ‘worlds’. I get to use my experience in the modeling industry along with my coaching expertise to empower women like YOU to create an image you love, to gain visibility and gain the courage to use your voice. Sometimes sharing our message, our mission, requires us to show off a little and that’s ok! (most of my clients actually really enjoy this part once they give themselves permission!) Get the interview [HERE] Tena’s Top Ten Reasons to Listen:
- Find out what makes Laura want to jump out bed!
- Laura’s secret tip: She got dressed. Even when she didn’t have to.
- Hear how Laura went back to her 3 year old self to find her true passion!
- This chicks FREE video training is da bomb. Hear all about it!
- Personality driven biz owner? Listen. #EndOfStory
- Common theme heard on CLIQUE? Get a coach.
- Wearing a mask in your biz is making you feel like crap. Take it off. – Laura Madden
- Laura credits her hubby for the help to take the leap from one biz (and state) to another.
- Fact: You attract things into your life that you want.
- Laura dishes on how important self expression is.
If you enjoyed reading this, CLICK HERE to receive weekly access to my insider secrets and inspired tips, so that you can create an image that you’re proud of & a life you love AND get my FREE Video Training RIGHT HERE: Top 3 Mistakes Women Entrepreneurs are making on camera.
When you look in the mirror are you happy with the person staring back at you? Laura Madden empowers women business owners to create an eye-grabbing presence & an image they love, so they can gain visibility & grow their business. Laura uses her insider-secrets from 20 years in the modeling industry to help women break free from their shell & shamelessly self-promote on & off-camera. Work with Laura Madden
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